Jan 273 min read

Breaking the Cycle of Rejection: Tips for Moving Forward

Do you know that rejection has two accomplices?

Yes, rejection works well together with insecurity and people-pleasing. Have you noticed this in your life? The feeling of not being good enough or intentionally overlooked for an opportunity. Afraid of being told no and burning out from saying "yes" to more than you can commit to. Angry or jealous of those who seem more successful. These are a few examples.

This trio in a person, if not revealed, renounced, delivered, and healed, will cause them to spiral downward into a life full of havoc, identity issues, mental and emotional concerns, unnecessary pain, and eventually helplessness and hopelessness. That is not the life God intended for us to have.

Nothing is wrong with the desire to be accepted, loved, part of, or to do the same for others. It is only a problem when it becomes an idol and addiction to soothe egos or soul wounds, feel included by all means (including self-sabotage, harm, and neglect), or cover up the brokenness within by worshipping to make everyone happy. It is time for this trio's stony walls and repeated negative cycles to come down and be dismantled if you want them to.

So, where to begin? Here are some starting points for you to move forward from rejection. Transformation is inevitable as you develop your relationship with God and work towards exercising the authority Christ has given you.

Starting Points for Breaking the Cycle

Revelation. Ask God to show you the areas in your life where the oppressive trio has access and permission to control—awareness of the what and knowledge of the why are the first steps. James 1:5, "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him."
Renounce. A person must cancel the agreement and revoke the partnership to no longer partner with something. The revoking can come through verbal, written, or another way inspired by the Lord. Proverbs 28:13 says, "Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy."
Deliverance. God's power can free us from the grip of any bondage. Whether self-caused or not, affliction and adversities do not have the final say; God does. John 8:36, "So if the Son makes you free, then you are unquestionably free." 2 Corinthians 3:17 "Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty [emancipation from bondage, true freedom]."
Healing. This part of the process is so particular to moving forward—allowing God to heal and restore wholeness to all the damaged places. Renewed minds, new perspectives, awakened purpose, courage, rehabilitated identity in Christ, unshakeable faith, the willingness to receive God's acceptance, and unconditional love all come to fruition. Psalm 147:3, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Philippians 4:19, "And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."

Starting point to breaking the cycle of rejection: revelation, renounce, deliverance, and healing.

Prayer for Moving Forward from Rejection

Father God, I thank you for the opportunity to come before you. I repent for trying to please others instead of desiring to please you. I renounce accepting every false belief attached to me through rejection. I break the agreement with insecurities and disobedience as a result of it. Cleanse my mind and heart from the painful cycles of rejection, insecurity, and people-pleasing. Heal me, I pray and restore me to the joy of your salvation. I release to You, Lord, those who mean me no good, who I have allowed to take advantage of me. I forgive them and myself. I declare I am no longer wallowing in rejection but rising in Your acceptance. I am not confined to insecurities but breaking free with confidence in Christ Jesus. I do not desire to please people but to please the One who created me for such a time as this. Today, I am breaking through these barriers and becoming the leader I am supposed to be. Amen.

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